Feel Good Club share with us their five tips for being happier, through recognising and stopping negative behaviours and thoughts.
1. Comparing yourself to others
Comparisons will never equal happiness, full stop.
The thing about comparing ourselves is that we usually make comparisons against material things or what we see on the surface, usually on social media. We also have a habit of comparing our starting point to someone else’s finishing line.
Making comparisons will slow you down and demotivate you.
Always remember, no two journeys are the same. Focus on where you want to be and nobody else. You’ll be far happier and you’ll get there much quicker.
2. Believing everything you think
Time to get scientific for a second. Humans can have 60k thoughts a day and 80% of those are thought to be negative.
I’m not a mathmatician but I’d say there’s a high probability many of those negative thoughts are about ourselves, and if you suffer from negative self-talk/ anxiety, the mind can be a very overwhleming place to be.
BUT, just because we think negatively about ourselves it doesn’t mean it’s true, in fact, more often than not it’s not true at all. Make a habit out of picking out your negative thoughts and ask whether if you said it to a friend, they’d agree with you.
3. Dealing with everything alone
PSA, you don’t have to deal with everything alone.
We are human, we aren’t built to deal with all of the pressures of life alone, it’s why we’re instinctively built to find partners. You don’t get extra points for taking the weight of the world on your shoulders and no-one will think you’re weak if you ask for help.
The bravest thing you can do is ask for support. Do it.
4. Trying to please everyone
It’s impossible and if you continue to try and juggle everyone else’s happiness, eventually it’s going to come at the detriment of your own.
By trying to please everyone, you end up taking on little bits of different people’s personalities and losing your own.
It takes practice but learn to be okay with saying no, disagreeing or having your own opinion.
5. Linking happiness to material targets
“I’ll be happy when I lose x weight”, “I’ll be happy when I earn x pounds”
If your happiness is linked to material targets you’ll find yourself in a cycle of always wanting to lose a bit extra or earn a bit more, thus never quite being happy. Link your targets to how you feel, your confidence, your self-velief and personal development.
That’s where the real happiness is.
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